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Important note! This is not a play party, so you can leave your toy bags at home. This is a social event for dancing, eating, and live entertainment.


This is a CAPPED event. The venue only allows for a certain number of guests, and I don’t have any ability to go above that. Please get your tickets early!

Covid19 Vaccination verification will be required before entry to the event. There will be no exceptions. Please have your photo and vaccination card available with your ticket upon arrival.

Parking: There are a variety of parking options near or at the venue. There is free street parking available, though you may have to walk a block or so. There are several public parking garages within walking distance, and the hotel also provides valet parking for a fee.

Attire: No one will be policing your outfit! However, this is meant to be a dressed up/formal event. We don’t get many opportunities to be together to celebrate our community in this way, plus it’s the holiday season, but mostly we all just want to see you looking fancy. I’m a big fan of poshmark and thrifting for formal clothes! Get creative! Formal fetish attire is absolutely acceptable and will look great! Just remember, we can’t have any kind of nakedness as this is in a public venue.

This event is not for profit. Proceeds from the event will be donated to Angels Among Us, the fund-raising arm of the The Preston Robert Tisch Brain Tumor Center at Duke. This effort is in honor of one of our most beloved community members, who is truly... a shining light.

Food and drinks: This is not a sit-down dinner, but there will be quite a bit of delicious food! The catering at the hotel considers it “heavy appetizers”. There will also be desserts and cake from a local bakery which are seriously fantastic. Cocktails are at your discretion and will be available at a cash bar. Please drink responsibly and make sure you have appropriate transportation arrangements.

Photography: As with any event that is filled with a bunch of kinky folks, we will not be allowing photos to be taken or shared willy nilly. There will be a designated area for you to take photographs of yourself or other consenting guests that might want to join you. Photos will ONLY be permitted in the designated area, and you will be responsible for yourself. Please be respectful of everyone around you and keep only consenting friends in the frame.


The venue rental is over at midnight. So everybody has to vamoose by then. If we ever want to use this space again, we’ll need to be respectful of the contract.